Fear. It’s almost all consuming today. For the past week or so I’ve had this uncomfortable buzz in my arms. It starts on my shoulders blades and goes down the backs of my arms, then swirls above my wrists and onto the palms of my hands.
I’ve never had this type of symptom before, but I recognize the pain. It feels like being shocked from an outlet. A million years ago my hand slipped when I was plugging in a lamp, and my fingers pushed forward and made contact with the prongs when they were already part way into the outlet. A zap that made me jump and hurt like hell; electricity. That’s what this feeling is running down my arms, and with each day that passes it gets stronger. I have so many different weird things that happen to my body that I’m never surprised when something new pops up. But when it stays, I get worried. Now with this feeling buzzing through me non-stop I’m starting to get really scared.
At my last neuro visit my doc talked to me about getting genetic testing. He said the words amyloid and genetic and I remember thinking ‘huh?’. After a decade of being sick and eventually KNOWING what was wrong with me, (dermatomyositis and small fiber neuropathy) I wondered why I’d never heard these words before in relation to me. He asked if I wanted to be tested to see if my small fiber neuropathy was amyloid or genetic. Or amyloid and genetic?? I was nervous and my brain was so busy thinking that when I left that appointment I was like, what did he say?? I hate that when I do that. I should record my doc visits because I do that a lot; I get home and try and recall the conversation and yah…
It’s been a few months since my new neurologist said the words amyloid and genetic, and I said yes to the testing but I heard nothing back. I’m guessing my insurance said no to it. I figured, well the next time I see him I’ll be prepared. I’ll look it up and have questions. And time went by. Now- the buzzing arms. I looked up amyloid and didn’t like what I saw. It sounded like me. In all of my reading over the past 5 years or so, I never saw the word ‘amyloid’ anywhere, but if I did I would’ve known 5 years sooner. It fits. All of the crazy squeezing sensations, feeling like I’ve a compression stocking over my body and it’s squeezing like a snake, the immediate sensation of super-gravity; feeling like I’m being pulled into the ground with g-force like pull and having to go flat to relieve it….it’s hard to live life if you have to keep laying down. All of the weird dysautonomia stuff. I’m going to have Big C go in to the appointment with me tomorrow. I need his brain, his memory retention lol, and the moral support.
Alright it feels good to write it down. I’ll be back. 😉
Another year has gone by without me blogging. Not once people! I think if I’m going to keep writing (and I should) this blog has to evolve, because I have. 😉 I’m now 10 years in to the spoonie/chronic/wtf lifestyle and life is much different than it was in 2007. Matter of fact everything has evolved in these last 10 years. Seems like just yesterday I bought one of first cell phones that had a camera in it. My best friend made fun of me because it was really weird looking in the hinge where the phone flipped…yes, flipped. ? I’ve been feeling very nostalgic lately….
This year I’ll be turning the big five o. I was telling Big C the other day, what the hell has happened to the time?! It feels like I’ve been ripped off these past 10 years. Everyone says the 40’s are the best years! You’re kids are grown or are close to leaving the nest so you have more freedom, you’ve worked your ass off to get where you are in your career (so hopefully you’re not living paycheck to paycheck like in your 20’s and 30’s even) you might be done with apartment living in and your own home….etc. But I feel like I was robbed. I got sick when I was 39 and my entire 40’s was filled with sickness, pain, anxiety, fear, and suffering. Those things kinda put a damper on recognizing and living in the moment. It’s kinda hard to explain, but I don’t feel that I’ve grown as a person, I feel like I should be turning 40 instead of 50, but it is what it is. 😉
This last year I’ve said goodbye to a few friends after the fact, as they passed quickly and unexpectedly. We all know that we’ve got a greater chance of dying before we hit old age due to disease, but when it happens it’s still such a great shock. I miss them like crazy. It’s brought me to a place where I’m thinking about my own mortality. Would I be happy with my life as I lived it if I died today? No. So I’m making some changes. I’m trying to be more present. Trying to get a little more healthy; changing the things I can control.
It’s been so long since I’ve blogged regularly; there are a ton of broken links here that I’ll be fixing. I was scanning through earlier and I saw that one of my ‘new sick chick’ rants had a link for viagra. hahaha! I don’t know if it was a link that changed or if some bot got into my account, but if you see any links for viagra or viagra level weirdness, know that it’s not me. lol
It’s Thankful Thursday!! I say it like it’s nothing new, hahaha! But, it’s new for me. I’m not
big on New Year’s resolutions or declarations but this year I’m really feelin it. Living with intention keeps popping into my head and it feels good. 🙂 Here we go
1. I’m thankful to be alive. Seems like a no-brainer but I truly am.
2. I’m thankful that I’m able to walk. I think sometimes I forget just how hard it was a few years ago.
3. I’m thankful for the internet. I said it. I’m taking new graphic design classes and finding out that I have a thimble full of creativity in me. I always thought I had none.
4. I’m thankful for my partner in this life. It’s been 15 years now and we still can be in the same room together and not drive each other crazy. I call this amazing.
5. I’m grateful for the roof over my head. We’re living in a place now that I never thought I’d live and it’s humbled me for sure generic cialis 5mg.
There’s my first Thursday. I feel good about the upcoming year. It’s going to be a good one if I have to put it in a headlock and make it one.
So today I got my holter monitor attached to me. Mine is either really technologically advanced or this is a really old photo of a woman wearing a holter. In my search for images I noticed that the top two electrodes in ALL the photos were placed up higher on the chest, just like in this photo. Mine are placed on the top parts of my boobs. What the heck?? And the unit itself is the size of a pager. Doesn’t that just date someone when they say ‘pager’? I recently flew next to an 18 year old kid who had never seen one. (hahaha, I schooled him on how life was back in the stone age) Anyway, had I looked these up yesterday I would have asked the tech who stuck them to me why the heck are they on my actual boobs. Now I feel like 2 days from now when I go to get it removed another tech will look and go “oohhhhh. Marcia put this on, right? tsk, tsk. We have to do it ALL OVER AGAIN.” Because that’s the kind of luck I have.
So rewind to 4:30 this morning, I got up, sat in our recliner and cried like a baby. Not because I had to get a 48 hour holter, it’s just I’ve hit my limit in the sick-kid game and when this happens, and it does, I crack and weep like a baby. Trust me, as hard as we try not to cry, letting out a good cry ALWAYS makes you feel better. Purged. Then I threw my ass in the shower and as I was getting ready, I was searching for my eyebrow makeup. Where could it freakin be??? And I thought about it, I only do my eyebrows if I’m going to the doctor. And that’s it. And it hit me, I only put my eye brows on when I have an appointment. Not because I’m trying to look good, but that’s the only time I leave the house anymore!! I used to be wearing a face at all times. I’ve been known to sleep in makeup (ewwww) for fear someone would see me with no makeup on. Is that crazy? Yes. But I’ve never said I wasn’t crazy. Fast forward to 2014 and I never have make up on. Like ever. I guess the line is eyebrows. I refuse to be seen without em. The crazy sick lady with the rockin eyebrows is out and about today people. Make a wide berth…
I was just having a really crappy, feel-sorry-for-myself day and it all changed when we stopped at the hospital to visit my niece. She just had a baby. Oh. My. Gosh. If you ever feel so low that you just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, find a baby and hold them. 😀 She was the most beautiful baby, making all the right new-born baby faces to make a heart melt. Now I’m home, under a bunch of blankets (the mid-west big freezzzzzeee), rockin some awesome eyebrows and cuddling with the Bean…
I have just done nothing with this blog for so long. I’ve thought about just shutting it down, or letting it float in the inter webs forever; my rants forever floating…hahaha. I’ve got the itch to write again. The excitement that builds up when you think about it, changing blog themes incessantly getting all pumped up to write something, anything!
That’s where I’m at right now. I know that I want to jump back into advocacy again: I’m SO tired of dermatomyositis getting no play out there in the land of awareness. Bratty foot stomping here. So, if I want things to change I need to try and change them. And here I am. ??
Here’s a link to a depressing article about DM and the onset of cancer with specific antibodies present and lots of very scientific-ey words. Bam!
and here’s a picture of a cute puppy. Just because.
This cute doggy was found at The Meta Picture. Ok, I’m going to read for a while and crash. Big time Friday night over here!!
we still have a large amount of people with rare diseases. I think it’s like 30 million people in the US have a rare disease and there’s around 7, 000 rare diseases on the list. It makes it hard to get funding for research, hard for people to connect with others with their same condition. I read this somewhere (don’t quote me on this) but I think it said like 95% of rare diseases don’t have one FDA approved treatment for their disease. That’s just nuts.
I’m going to link a few places to check out, if you’d like to spread the word, read up, or meet some people like yourself. 🙂
I took this photo from the passenger seat of our car one morning on the way to the University Hospital upstate. This shot turned out to be our last trip up although we didn’t know it at the time. We drove up for 3 consecutive days each month so I could get IVIG and solumedrol infusions. The infusions were long (8+hours) and they really made me feel sick. The headaches that I got while sitting in the infusion chair were some of the worst I’ve had. Looking back on that time in my life it was so crazy that for the most part I don’t think I really acknowledged the levity of the situation; just how sick I really was. I went from a walker to a cane so I knew the IVIG was helping me. I was carrying an extra 80+ pounds on me from the steroids and the water retention I battled constantly. I remember being stretched so tight that my legs would actually rip open. In the moment; in all the moments over the years, I think my brain sets itself to daily survival-mode and not really thinking that far into the future of what-ifs and what-could-happens. After this last trip up I got really sick. My brain and spinal chord swelled and I ended up in the hospital. I ‘woke up’ on the third day there but it turns out I wasn’t sleeping, I was awake but didn’t know it. Big C told me that it was like I was there but not there. So when I ‘woke up’ I was sitting up and suddenly I said, whoa! It’s really bright in here! And he told the nurses I was back. When I think about it, it just seems like a dream to me. And even though it’s scary as hell, it feels like it happened to someone else.
I had a moment when we were driving up and I took this particular shot. I remember it. My first thought was wow, cool shot! Haha! Got it on an iPhone too. 🙂 Then I was thinking ‘this is my life’. I remember that. A sudden burst of reality. I am sick. I’m still me but a whole new different me. A me that gets up at the crack of dawn to drive to a hospital, not to go to work. I’m in the chair. I’m not attending to a patient, I AM the patient. A moment of pure clarity while I aimed my phone at the sunrise.
On that day I was 5 years sick. You’d think I would have realized this already, right? I think with chronic illness comes so many different emotions, constantly changing, that sometimes you don’t know if you’re upside down or right side up. Epiphanies hit you like a brick in the face and then fade away leaving you open and surprised when another moment hits you. You really do find out who you are somewhere in the chronic journey. Whether you like it or not, you’re a fighter.
No, I’m totally not Greek at all. I was trying to be hip. Oh wait, hip’s not hip. Oh what? That movie was like big, like, a decade ago?? Haha, you know as I was writing that I thought, hey this is the funniest stuff! I do try though, don’t I?
Today is our son’s 23rd birthday. He lives a few hours above us, and due to his work schedule and his fiancee’s work/school schedule, plus the fact that they probably don’t wanna hang with the moms and pops when they do finally get some downtime, we don’t get to see them as often as we’d like. He decided he wanted to come down and go camping with his dad. 🙂 Perfect! But-I told everyone I couldn’t go, my body has been weird to me lately and I didn’t think I could make it in the heat and in a tent. I know. I have the most understanding of kids. They really do rock. So that’s not the guilt, here’s the guilt-I kept Bean here with me. She’s not awake yet and Big C and I could come up with nothing that would magically make her feel better about being home with me. She got to stay up late last night and see everyone, so she knows that they’re here. She gets SO excited when her uncle K’s fiancee comes. I say she likes A more that she likes candy and I’m right.
She’s timid when it comes to the outdoors, she has a hard time walking trails and fear leads to meltdowns of epic proportions. I really wanted Big C to have some quality camp time with K and the rest of the gang. If we had her go, Big C would be spending all of his time trying to soothe her so I made the executive decision to keep her with me. Here’s the thing. She has no idea that when she wakes up everyone will not be here and what the heck am I going to tell her. I kept asking C last night, help me think of a good way to tell her. Or just not a really bad way to tell her. I still don’t know. I’m thinking I’m going to tell her that they went camping for one night, and that I really wanted her to come with me to visit Nanna. And just hope she doesn’t hate me forever. (<—- melodramatic haha)
That’s all I’ve got for now. I’m going to leave you with the cutest pic of K when he was the cutest. :0)
AAAHHHHH!!! He was so dang cute. Now he’s an adult and he’s still dang cute but I don’t want to pinch his cheeks anymore. They’re all beardy.
I’ve been going through an old journal/blog of mine that I had set to private. It was basically a place where I vented to myself (lol) and also as a symptom tracker. It’s weird to read through it, I forgot just how truly awful things were. I’m posting these as I think they might help someone who’s newly ill/diagnosed/trying to get a diagnosis. I really was frustrated, sick, in pain, and flat out tired. I think it’s normal for someone who doesn’t really know what’s going on to have so many negative emotions. It takes time and repetition with those bad symptoms to not panic when you get them, to not be so angry, etc. I don’t buy that expression ‘time heals all wounds’ I think that’s bullshit. Time allows us to have experience with issues so they’re not so big, scary, awful. They become a little less. They still suck. I hope this helps someone out there. You are so not alone.
(I added these in the upper left hand corner of the blog, right next to About Me.)